Active Surveillance

Ladies.  I know it's been a long time.  It's been a long time since I've been on a date.  Between disastrous dates, numerous out-of-town weddings, a major holiday, getting ready to move to a new apartment, and an illness in the family, I've had a major case of dating fatigue. 

One of the members of the Brain Trust has coined (well, borrowed) a term for this: active surveillance.  This is a phrase that is generally applied to patients with low risk prostate cancer who elect to monitor things and act only if the situation worsens.  Mind you, this is very active monitoring with regular follow-up--not watchful waiting!

In the dating realm, active surveillance involves continued vigilance to potential dating prospects, however, not actually engaging in the act of dating due to lack of decent prospects or lack of motivation.

I can attest to both.

Recently, I attended (yet another) wedding in the Southern Central Time Zone and reconnected with dear friends from college.  They are all married now or in serious relationships headed in that general direction.  I am the freedom-loving single gal of the bunch, which is a status I have been enjoying to the utmost in recent months.

One of my friends and her new husband decided to play matchmaker with one of their friends.  Indian, interventional cardiology...in the Central Time Zone.  Much to my surprise, I was game and let them give him my number.

Long story short, it has been two weeks and we have only managed to talk to voice mailboxes.  Between his work schedule and my work/social schedule, we have not been able to connect for a full two weeks.  Which begs the question...I just don't have time or the motivation to run through this rigmarole.  My research project is taking shape, I have new friends in a new city, and every night is booked with a different activity.  With so much mental and social stimulation, my life is full and I don't feel like I'm missing anything else. 

So, onward with surveillance, while I continue to be active in every other aspect of my life.